I really stirred the pot with my Tuesday morning special needs parent support group, but I was not at all surprised. I brought up that awkward conversation we’ve all had with complete strangers. You know the one. They notice something different in our child’s behavior or abilities or appearance. They look for something to say and it generally starts with, “You must be a really special parent because…”
After the laughter and nodding heads subsided came the resounding cry, “We need a list of one-liners!” The humor soon gave way to transparency.
- No, I’m not. I’m just holding it together one day after another and, by the way, I have no idea what I’m doing.
- If you think I have the super hero power of patience, you are wrong!
- Neither my child nor I are angels from heaven. We are real human beings with all the faults and challenges that come with that, and then some.
Looking for an energizing topic? Nailed it! What is it about that statement that opens Pandora’s Box and lets it all tumble out?
Maybe it’s because that statement highlights a difference. Maybe it shines a spotlight on us at our hardest moment. Maybe it pokes us where we are most vulnerable, in that tender place between grief and acceptance.
Then came the reasonable voice from that mom who is so quiet and insightful, “You know, maybe we shouldn’t react that way. They are just trying to connect. They are trying to be helpful. Maybe what we need instead of good comebacks is a good measure of grace.”
“Forgive, and you will be forgiven; give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, will be put into your lap; for the measure you give will be the measure you get back.” (Luke 6:37-38 NRS)
Jesus taught in an agrarian culture that lacked standardized weights. When buying in the market place sometimes the measure you got was generous, other times the buyer left feeling cheated. A good measure is overly generous, abundant, and indulgent even. That is the grace that God offers to us. It is so much more than we deserve, filled with understanding for when we fall short. With God’s grace we are blessed beyond measure.
How generous is my measure? Truth be told, some days it’s more generous than others. We all have growing edges when it comes to grace.
Gracious God, We thank you for the grace that you offer to us so freely. Help us to see the world through your eyes. Thank you for fresh opportunities to try again. Amen
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